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Monday, September 21, 2009

A tragedy

Lindsey went to St. Ignatius' high school's homecoming dance on Saturday night. We had told her that, contrary to what she wanted to do, she had to be home by midnight. Her and her friends were "planning" on have a bonfire after the dance and her plan was to be home by 1:30 a.m. As my husband pointed out to her, we have a curfew in our city for 15 year old. Generally, on a Saturday it is 11:00 p.m. During the week it is 10:00 p.m. The only exception is if the kids are with their parents or coming home from work or an event (sponsored by school, church or community). If they are coming home from an event, they have an hour after the event ends to get their little butts home. She wasn't happy.

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However, on Saturday, she went to the dance. They went to dinner before and she was home by 11:30. Wow, I couldn't believe it but was thrilled because I was really tired. Up until I saw her face.
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One of the sophomore's at St. Ignatius died that afternoon in an ATV accident. Of course, the rumor that went through the dance was that he and his buddies (or their dates) had been in an accident on the way to the dance. It wasn't until the next morning that all the details became clear.


St. Ignatius High School student Daniel Murphy dies in ATV accident hours before homecoming dance
Homecoming dance turns into vigil for University Hts. youth
Sunday, September 20, 2009
Robert L. Smith
Plain Dealer Reporter

The homecoming dance turned into a sudden and solemn vigil Saturday night at St. Ignatius High School, when students learned that one of their classmates had died that day in an ATV accident.

Fifteen-year-old Daniel Murphy, a sophomore honors student at St. Ignatius, was one of four classmates riding an all-terrain vehicle in a wooded area near one of the boys' homes in Solon when it crashed into a tree. Three other teens were injured, one seriously.

Murphy rowed for the crew team at St. Ignatius, and he and the other three had competed just hours earlier in the 14th Annual Head of the Cuyahoga Rowing Regatta in the Flats. He was expected at the homecoming dance that night.
School officials planned to break the news to Murphy's teammates at the dance by pulling them aside. But word of the tragedy had already begun to spread as the dance began, and students instinctively made for the chapel a short walk from the gym on Lorain Avenue at West 30th Street.

Soon, most of the dance crowd had poured into the chapel, the young men in suits, their dates in summer dresses. Many expressed shock. Jesuit priests led them in prayer. A vigil emerged. Crew coach Matt Previts wept to see it.

"It's kind of amazing to see them rally around each other this way," he said, choking back emotion.

"Every one of them, they all left the dance. It's a vigil for Danny. It's beautiful."
Students lingered in small groups in the chapel lobby, some crying, some holding one another in hugs. Slowly, they began to make their way back across the campus to the gym and an unforgettable homecoming.

According to Solon police, the four teens were riding a single ATV in a wooded area behind houses that border the South Chagrin Reservation of the Cleveland Metroparks. Police received a 9-1-1 call about 3:35 p.m. and arrived to find Murphy unconscious.

According to students at the dance, Murphy was driving the ATV when it crashed into a tree. Two of the students leapt from the four-wheeled vehicle before the crash and suffered minor injuries.
Daniel Loyke, also a St. Ignatius sophomore, suffered leg and head injuries and was flown to MetroHealth Medical Center. The accident occurred near his house on Birch Circle.
"He busted up his knee. He's going to be OK," Previts said.

Both had rowed on different varsity eight-man boats for Ignatius in the men's junior race at 1 p.m. in the regatta, which drew more than 1,000 rowers from six states and Canada.
Two and a half hours later, the ATV crashed. Murphy was dead at the scene, police said. The Cuyahoga County coroner's office is likely to do an autopsy today.
Known as "Murph," he was a quiet leader who showed his heart through his work ethic, said Peter Corrigan Jr., St. Ignatius principal. "We struggle to put words to what we are feeling tonight. We stand in solidarity with the Murphy family and all who mourn Daniel," he said in a statement.
The University Heights youth was the son of educators. His father, Paul Murphy, teaches religion at John Carroll University. His mother, Marcia Leous, teaches theology at Beaumont High School in Cleveland Heights.

"He's the kind of boy that every father wishes he had," Previts said. "He's the kind of young man every coach wishes he had more of."
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What a tragedy for Danny and his family and, as a parent of a 15 year old, I just don't know how you go on. I know you do, but as Lindsey sobbed on Saturday night, you just wonder. Please keep Danny and his parents and all the students who prayed for him and will pray for him this week in your prayers. His funeral is Thursday and it is going to be a really tough day and week for everyone.
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Yesterday, when Lindsey and I talked about it, we discussed what his parents were going through and the girl that was waiting for Danny to pick her up to go to the dance and his classmates and their dates.
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We talked about the impact of one action and why you should never go to bed or leave the house on angry words . . . even when you are angry or hurt. And it goes both ways. She said that she hoped that Danny was the kind of kid that still gave hugs to his parents and told them that he loved them and, in a very special way, I was hoping that his parents were the kind of parents that still gave hugs to their son and told him that they loved him every chance they got. Because, you never know when it may be the last time.

Friday, September 18, 2009

Friday Fill In - September 18, 2009

hot fudge.”
―Don Kardong



1. My car is really a Chrysler Town & Country minivan with stow and go storage which is, by the way, a perfect place to hide Christmas presents.


2. The season of traveling is coming up next . . . in Detroit next week, in Chicago two weeks later . . . I am trying to not go to Dallas.


3. Lately, things seem very busy.


4. See No. 1 above . . . lol . . . is one of my favorite 'hiding' places.


5. What happened to being allowed to stay home and do nothing.


6. Focusing on knitting on one project for a week is not impossible!


7. And as for the weekend, tonight I'm looking forward to keeping an eye on Andrew and Lindsey . . . lucky me, tomorrow my plans include driving to Pittsburgh for the Naval Academy Forum with Lindsey and her friend Cortney and hopefully they will keep an open mind, then driving home and getting here by 4:00 so that Lindsey can get ready for St. Ignatius' homecoming and Sunday, I want to sleep in but, we will be going to 8:00 a.m. Mass, followed by Breakfast in the Park, and since we won't be home on Saturday, doing laundry and hopefully Sarah and Kyle will come over and we can have dinner together!

Monday, September 14, 2009

Simple Woman - September 14, 2009



FOR TODAY ~ Monday, September 14, 2009
successful at cleaning out an attic.”
―Ann Landers

Outside my Window... the sun is shining and it is a beautiful day.
I am thinking... Lindsey will be spending the rest of her teen years angry
I am thankful for... my husband . . . Lindsey is going to a homecoming dance on Saturday. The kid she is going with (and has been dating all summer) said that he was going to have a bunch of kids to his house afterwards and she would be home by 1:30. Dave (who is the calm, quiet one in our family dynamic), said "no." He said no to her, to Andrew and to Andrew's parents. Lindsey is royally pissed. I probably shouldn't have laughed.
From the kitchen... we had friends for dinner on Saturday and had grilled steak, tomatoes from the garden and augratin potatoes (made from scratch!). Yesterday, we had the swim team for a picnic and enjoyed spending the day outdoors and hotdogs and hamburgers.
I am creating... Zachariah's hat (again) . . . frogged the old one and am starting over.
I am going... to have another busy week
I am wearing... black slacks, red shirt and white with black polka dot jacket
I am reading... nothing . . . kids were crabby so we just dropped stuff off at the library
I am hoping... to get back to the library this evening or tomorrow
I am hearing... the radio and people arriving for work
Around the house... love having people over since the house always looks neat and clean
One of my favorite things... spending time with friends and family
A Few Plans For The Rest Of The Week... meeting tonight (Principal's Parents Advisory Committee), meeting tomorrow night (swim team . . . it is going to be ugly), Lindsey has violin on Wednesday and I will spend that time at the Book and Bean with a knit group, Saturday is St. Ignatius' homecoming and we are also going to Pittsburgh so that Lindsey can attend a Naval Academy Forum.

Friday, September 11, 2009

Lindsey is a Junior

In reviewing my blog, I realized that I forgot to post the picture from Lindsey's first day of 11th grade. She is a JUNIOR in high school. Her school does block schedules, so classes are 80 minutes long but each semester, she only has four classes. This semester is substantially harder than next.

This semester she has Theology 11, AP Government (which lasts all year), pre-Calc and Physics.

Next semester, she has AP Government, Orchestra/HandBells, Honors English 11 and Calculus. She is just a tad smart. LOL.

Anyway, her first day of school was Thursday, August 20, and here she is in all her 15 year old glory!


September 11, 2009



What A Difference One Day Makes
In Memory of 9-11-01

On Monday we emailed jokes.

On Tuesday we did not.


On Monday we thought that we were secure.

On Tuesday we learned better.


On Monday we were talking about heroes as being athletes.

On Tuesday we relearned who our heroes are.


On Monday we were irritated that our rebate checks had not arrived.

On Tuesday we gave money away to people we had never met.


On Monday there were people fighting against praying in schools.

On Tuesday you would have been hard pressed to find a school where someone was not praying.


On Monday people argued with their kids about picking up their room.

On Tuesday the same people could not get home fast enough to hug their kids.


On Monday people were upset that they had to wait 6 minutes in a fast food drive through line.

On Tuesday people didn't care about waiting up to 6 hours to give blood for the dying.


On Monday we waved our flags signifying our cultural diversity.

On Tuesday we waved only the American flag.


On Monday there were people trying to separate each other by race, sex, color and creed.

On Tuesday they were all holding hands.


On Monday we were men or women, black or white, old or young, rich or poor, gay or straight, Christian or non-Christian.

On Tuesday we were Americans.


On Monday politicians argued about budget surpluses.

On Tuesday grief stricken they sang 'God Bless America'.


On Monday the President was going to Florida to read to children.

On Tuesday he returned to Washington to protect our children.


On Monday we had families.

On Tuesday we had orphans.


On Monday people went to work as usual.

On Tuesday they died.


On Monday people were fighting the 10 commandments on government property.

On Tuesday the same people all said 'God help us all' while thinking 'Thou shall not kill'.


It is sadly ironic how it takes horrific events to place things into perspective, but it has. The lessons learned that week, the things we have taken for granted, the things that have been forgotten or overlooked, hopefully will never be forgotten again.
~ author unknown ~




Tuesday, September 08, 2009

Simple Woman - September 8, 2009

he who sows courtesy reaps friendship;
and he who plants kindness gathers love.”
―Basil

FOR TODAY . . . Tuesday, September 8, 2009

Outside my Window... it is raining but we had a beautiful weekend and it didn't start raining until last evening.
I am thinking... that my head is throbbing and I'm getting a cold.
I am thankful for... living in a great place, having a good job and a wonderful family
From the kitchen... we had about 100 people at our house on Sunday. We have left over potato salad, pasta salad and a sausage/pasta dish. No cooking this week.
I am creating... I frogged my grrlfriend bag and restarted it last night.
I am going... to an Athletic Booster meeting this evening and I just don't feel like it.
I am wearing... navy blue slacks, blue shirt and aqua and blue jacket (had to hem the pants yesterday, they are new and TWO sizes smaller than what I was wearing at the beginning of summer!!)
I am reading... nothing
I am hoping... my books come in from the library
I am hearing... the rain hit the windows
Around the house... it is clean (one of the advantages of having a boatload of people over). We do have the swim team coming over this coming Sunday.
One of my favorite things... spending time with friends and family
A Few Plans For The Rest Of The Week... work, a meeting Thursday morning, doctor's appointment Thursday afternoon, arguing with Lindsey on Friday (when she wants to go spend the evening at Andrew's house . . . she'll also want to spend Saturday evening there . . . it is getting old), swimming starts on Saturday and, of course the swim team picnic on Sunday (33 girls and their families).

Monday, September 07, 2009

Labor Day and other stuff.

I had to laugh about this quote . . . my husband is a school teacher in a Catholic elementary school in Cleveland. Their classes started on August 19. Right now he has 15 students. He anticipates anywhere from another 5 to 10 by the end of the week this week. Many parents don't bring their kids to school until after Labor Day because "that is when we started and that is when our kids start . . . " So the kids start off the school year missing three weeks of school.
We had a wonderful Labor Day weekend. Since we moved into our home 28 years ago, we have had a gathering of friends. We used to have it on Monday but a couple of years ago moved it to Sunday. It is SOOOOO much easier.
We have friends who have come every year and we add new friends every year. It is a great time. Sarah and Kyle spent the night, as did Joe and Jane and their daughter, Cortney. The festivities started at noon on Sunday and over the next 12 hours, we had about one hundred people flitting in and out of our home and yard. It is always interesting and fun. Friends we have known for 30 years meet friends we have known for two, only to find out that their kids went to grade school together . . . how cool is that!
And today it rained. It waited until after Lindsey and I went to the store (essentials needed: milk and napkins and Joann's was having a sale).
Anyway, I hope your weekend was a glorious as mine and that you got to enjoy time with friends and family.
As to knitting stuff, I ripped out my grrlfriends bag. I just wasn't happy with it and restarted it again this evening. I also bought (at Joann's Sensations Rainbow classis yarn for Lindsey's slipper/socks that she wants for Christmas . . . I would post a pictures but they don't offer the color online). Zachariah's one mitten is done (Lorna's Lace, Black Watch . . . very nice yarn).
I was scheduled to go to a knitting retreat as part of the Grindstone Knitting Guild on September 19. However, Lindsey wants to go hear what the Naval Academy has to say and they are having a forum in Pittsburgh on September 19. Since she is going to keep an open mind about her future, I can give up a knitting retreat. I think.

Tuesday, September 01, 2009

Michael and Kary's wedding

Michael and Kary got married on July 28 in Florida. Michael is Jacquie's (one of my younger sisters) son. His best man for his wedding was Tommy. Tommy is Jeanne's (the other younger sister) son. Michelle is Tommy's wife. Michelle introduced Michael to Kary. Kary happens to be Michelle's sister.

Got it? Basically, the boy cousins have married sisters. Tommy is in the Navy and wasn't sure when he would be able to be home for the wedding. So, being that Kary and Michael weren't interested in a huge ceremony type thing, they moved the ceremony to Florida taking the wedding to the best man and his family!

The reception was held this past Saturday, August 29, at Alum Creek State Park (well, actually, we stayed at Alum Creek State Park. The reception was at the lower dam park (owned and operated by the Army Corp of Engineers. Very impressive, clean and cared for space. Michael and Kary rented two picnic pavilions, we all brought food and Michael grilled hamburgers and hot dogs. We had a great time, too much food and spent lots of time chatting, laughing, knitting (my sister and I spent time knitting with a variety of people coming over and ohhhing and ahhhing) and playing.



















The next pic is Mary, Lindsey and Zachariah in one of the cabins we stayed in.
















This is a pic of Jacquie's family.
Back row: Mackenzie, Sarah, Hayden, Zeke, Michael, Kary, Toby, Julie
Front row: Mike, Jacquie and Mary


Toby and Julie, they live in the Oakland area of California. Toby grew up in CA and is just starting his student teaching (middle school history). Julie is working on her Ph.d and is teaching at U.C. Davis and San Quentin prison. Toby has never experienced Bob Evans' so that is where they went for lunch on Sunday before Toby and Julie flew back to San Francisco. Julie is a vegetarian so I am sure it was an experience for her too. Although, the way she tells it, the reason she is a vegetarian is that she just doesn't like the taste of meat.


this is a pic of Erich (Jeanne's middle son). He is recently out of the Marines and is enrolled at the Police Academy at Akron University. Caity is his fiance. They are planning their wedding for October (yes, this October). He is also in the Marine Reserves. He has, by the way, ZERO body fat. Seriously, buff . . . and that comment comes from his aunt.

By the way, I should do a family tree . . . what a riot that would be . . . Jacquie and I both have adopted children from different places (some relatives, some not). Tommy, Michael, Erich, Amy and Sarah are all married to or marrying wonderful people who have children from other relationships.
It is all very convuluted. The thing that I enjoy more than anything though is that most of my siblings' children all get along and stay in touch.

It was a wonderful weekend. I am exhausted and Zachariah got sick at school yesterday. I am not sure he is really sick, sick or, like me, just exhausted.